Nothing is futile. Challenges are fine too. They give us the joy of learning. By giving a child a walker to ensure that he does not fall while he is yet to learn how to stand on his own and walk, we are only preventing him from figuring out for himself how or what he must do to raise himself from the ground.
Only when he practices all this can he subsequently walk and even run. We are robbing him of the pleasure of using his karm indriyas – physical faculties. How will he learn to rise if he does not fall? Without any experience, how will he develop his gyan indriyas or intellect? The joy of standing, and doing it on one’s own gives rise to self-assurance. When we provide everything to our kids, try to over protect them, they grow with that psychology and want to be provided for all their lives – asking their parents for money to set up business, without ever putting an effort themselves, etc. When we do something on our own, when we try to use our capacities, the lessons we learn from this stay with us forever.
So be self-reliant, be fearless, learn, love….make mistakes and GROW!